VIDEO TRANSCRIPTION – Make your partner feel special in your relationship. One simple way.
Hi, I’m Dr. Dillon Wilson, The Couples Coach. I’ve chatted with women or guys in relationships who said they had issues making their partner feel special. I mean, you can only give so many cards and candy, hugs, kisses, and pats on the back, right?
Because after a while, I mean these things have been done to death. And over time it can lose any real meaning or emotional relevance.
So one simple, very effective way of making your partner feel special is an indirect compliment to others. A direct compliment is something like, I like that shirt on you.
When you use this technique of indirect compliments, you simply praise their qualities to someone else. You can do this when your partner is not present, which is very, very effective, and you can also do it when they are present. Indirect compliments make the compliment feel more genuine.
When you tell others, someone will eventually tell your partner and they will feel amazingly special. Por ejemplo. You could tell your girlfriend or your wife’s mother , what a great friend she is to you. You could also tell her aunts, her coworkers and her girlfriends. Now you know good and damn well this will get back to her and she will absolutely love it.
You could also tell your boyfriend or husband’s parents, coworkers and his friends, how much you admire his inner strength and that he always makes you feel safe. Once again, this will get back to him and for a man, this makes us feel really good.
The indirect compliment also works very well. When your partner is there with you, all you simply do is you tell other people in the room what you like or admire about them, and this makes them feel amazingly special. Don’t be surprised if they break out with a great big grin or even start crying.
This actually happened to one of my aunts. She overheard my uncle telling her brother that he was very blessed, that she had been a very good mother, and my aunt happened to walk in on the conversation and was really affected by it. She still talks about it years later, her reaction is common.
I mean, imagine, , someone paying you a compliment like that, that just hits you in your heart and stays with you, you know. These are things that they remember 5, 10, 15, 20 years later.
And just with this one simple technique of making your partner feel very special in your relationship, like more relationship tips in your inbox, sign up at getrelationshiptips.com and follow for more great advice.